Worrier or Warrior?
Did you know that worrying is a sickness. Yes, it’s a real disease! There is no pill or potion for it, yet it is known to create stress and anxiety. Worry also leads to various other major illnesses including disease of the heart, digestive tract and lungs. Some people believe that if they worry enough about something, they can make it go away. There can be nothing further from the truth. Some people use the expression “I’m worried to death”. Well, be careful what you think!
Listen to the Audio (Music by Svenn Andersson III)
Let’s Meditate (music unknown – apologies to the composer)
Here’s an extract from an article in the Huffington Post. “Five hundred years ago, Michel de Montaigne said: “My life has been filled with terrible misfortune; most of which never happened.” Now there’s a study that proves it. This study looked into how many of our imagined calamities never materialize. In this study, subjects were asked to write down their worries over an extended period of time and then identify which of their imagined misfortunes did not actually happen. Lo and behold, it turns out that 85 percent of what subjects worried about never happened, and with the 15 percent that did happen, 79 percent of subjects discovered either they could handle the difficulty better than expected, or the difficulty taught them a lesson worth learning. This means that 97 percent of what you worry over is not much more than a fearful mind punishing you with exaggerations and misperceptions.”
If we think about it, there can be so much to worry about if we let our imagination loose. We can walk into a tall building and worry if it’s going to fall on our head. We can worry about flicking a switch in fear of it short-circuiting. We can worry about being poisoned with all the pesticides in our food. Or worry about the washing machine door flinging open in your face when it is spinning at 1400 rpm… The list is endless.
Why Do We Worry?
There are many reasons why we worry, but they are all based on underlying fear and insecurity. There may be many reasons for feeling insecure, perhaps someone left us or betrayed us in the past and we fear it happening again; perhaps the insecurity of not having enough money or comforts, or insecurity within the self, i.e. feeling unworthy and therefore lacking self-confidence.
The next greatest worry is perhaps that of dying. Everyone has to pass through it and yet some welcome it and some spend their lives worrying about it. Don’t waste your life worrying about death.
We are creators of our own worries when we, with our perfectionist attitudes, set up high expectations for ourselves and others. Drop the bar a little and be a little more accepting of the things around you. You are only hurting yourself if you do not.
Fear of rejection or let’s say, not being accepted, is also high up on the list. We worry so much about fitting in and looking good that it can drain us. It makes us lose our self-respect, and we start being someone we are not just to get the love and affection. Realise that you are fine just as you are!
Meditators are not exempt from worry! Some worry about whether they are doing it right, or if there is another way or a better shortcut to enlightenment! Never mind, keep meditating.
Instead of being a worrier be a warrior. A warrior is brave, and not afraid to face the enemy. If we keep thinking about and worrying about our worries, then they become bigger in our mind. If we look at them through a fresh eye of understanding, then perhaps we can let that 97% go.
We will not worry if we have prepared ourselves enough. This applies to everything from getting married to death, from school exams to spiritual growth. The law of karma tells us that if we have a stock of good deeds then we need not worry about our future. It is those who have not made the effort that will worry.
Another way of preventing unnecessary worry is to just ‘do it now’, which means to attend to the object of your worry as soon as possible, rather than procrastinating and giving yourself even more time to worry! This may not apply to all things but once again, be proactive.
Instead of worrying, vibe what you want. Send out thoughts of what you do want and rather than what you don’t. Send out well-wishing thoughts. Be hopeful and positive. In this way we make happen what we think.
When a difficult or disturbing situation happens, apply a full stop instead of an exclamation mark! Do not make things bigger than they are.
What do you worry about? Think about it. Is it realistic? Or is it totally unreasonable? Is there something you can do about it now? Do not suppress the worry and pretend it’s not there. Look at it and take action. Be proactive. Turn worry into action.
It’s time…. to be a warrior.
© ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London, UK