Lies and Deception
“No legacy is so rich as honesty.”
We have ‘accepted’ such wonderful phrases like ‘being economical with the truth’, and the creation of news based on ‘alternative facts’. It takes a powerfully honest man or woman to come out and say that they made a mistake. Everyone is too concerned with their own self-image and watching their own back. When we live our life by driving from the rear mirror, then our direction is bound to be wrong and no wonder the world is in such a mess today.Studies show that the average person lies several times a day.
Studies show that the
average person lies
several times a day.
Studies show that the average person lies several times a day. Some are big lies “Of course you are my first love!” To smaller ones: “You look so pretty in that dress.” When you decidedly don’t look good in it at all. Would we consider it to be a lie to cover a pimple with foundation cream or to colour grey hair white? Some experts say that a certain level of deception is healthy and actually keeps the society functioning better.
What do you think? Perhaps, we get used to the untruth as normal, such that we rarely bat an eye when presented with a blatant untruth, simply because we have normalized that behaviour. What happens then when the foundation of our society and everything we build in life is sitting very precariously on a lie? Just like an earthquake with one earth’s tremble the whole thing collapses.
The deceptions we need to address today are the inward facing ones. How might we tell certain lies to ourselves in order to make ourselves feel better? But in the long run they do not bring happiness, but only sorrow and we will realize this at some point, because time is programmed in such a way to reveal the truth to every one of us at the appropriate time.
Does money really
provide us with security?
For example, we might be thinking that a huge stock of money in the bank account automatically implies comfort and security. Yet how many people do we know who get robbed, or who are even attacked and lose a limb that no amount of money can replace. Recently someone in India could not work the ATM. He took help of someone and shared his pin number. This someone exchanged his card without him knowing. Later when the man reached home, he got SMS’s informing him how much money was being withdrawn. He was totally deceived. He thought this person was out to help him, but it turns out, he stole most of his hard-earned money. So does money really provide us with security?
Another area in which it’s easy to get deceived is with our positions at work. We may think we are climbing the corporate ladder, only to find out that we are being fired! This was the case with my friend in the UK. It turns out that her boss felt threatened and insecure about her. This person created false accusations which resulted in the termination of my friend’s contract of employment. Are you totally convinced that your job is secure and even if you are self-employed, are you totally sure that you always will be? Of course we will never know.
There is no security in
anything outside of ourselves.
Yet, the point I am making is that there is no security in anything outside of ourselves. I could lose my wealth, my family, my beauty, my reputation, my job, my… well everything… within a few seconds. There is no guarantee in today’s world. And if I thought it was all here to stay, then I am fooling myself. It’s all a big illusion. If I buy into the industry of illusion, then I am only fooling myself. And the truth is that there is a whole industry that works to perpetuate these illusions on a daily basis – we call it the media industry!! And we fall for their illusions hook line and sinker because the packaging is so alluring. Time to wake up and not only smell the coffee, but make sure you down a few hearty cups too!
There is benefit in everything.
More effort needs to be made in securing my inner world. I need to exercise the muscles of my mind so that only strong, powerful and determined thoughts emerge at all times. I need to stay positive and create strong statements about myself: “I can. It’s all OK. I have the inner power to deal with this. There is benefit in everything.”
In other words, I need to focus on and reinforce the truth within myself. The truth is that I am eternal and I am immortal. As a spiritual being I understand that no sword can cut me. No fire can burn me. And no water can drown me. So, there is no fear of dying. And definitely no fear of lying either. But, what is the truth? The truth is that which does not change and does not need to be proved. This is why God is remembered as the Truth. I take up this costume, this body to play my part. My external form, the body, changes, but I am and I always will exist and this is an eternal truth.
So, who am I really lying to? As Shakespeare said in Hamlet:
“This above all: to thine own self be true,
And it must follow, as the night the day,
Thou canst not then be false to any man (or woman).”
So, perhaps we are looking here at the question of self-honesty. Being honest with our own self. If we do not know the difference any more, no wonder the world lives in a constant state of grey. Nothing is truly black or white anymore, because such is the state of confusion of our minds.
At least to thine own self be true.
It’s time… to filter the truth from the falsehood and have the courage to follow it. At least, ‘to thine own self be true’.
© ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London, UK