Misunderstandings can be so upsetting that they can spoil a good relationship within minutes. Aren’t we humbled, and sometimes ashamed, when things are drawn to our attention, and we find out the real truth behind the matter? We realise what a story our wicked mind had convinced us to believe.
Misunderstanding another’s tone of voice can also cause us pain, if we take it in the wrong way. The sender may be saying one thing, but the recipient may receive it in a different way. For example, Have you done IT!? Or, Have YOU done it!? Or, Have you DONE it!? The statements can be taken as a command, an accusation or an enquiry, depending upon how the words were received.
How many times did you feel that someone was ignoring you, and then later learned that their eye-sight was short and they didn’t see you or their hearing was bad, and they never heard your sweet hello? How often have we jumped to a judgment about someone being stupid, and found out later that they were in fact quite smart; and we were the fool for not seeing their master plan.
We also make the mistake of assuming that a person should understand what we mean i.e. be intelligent enough to pick up our thoughts, and so we refrain from stating what we think is obvious. Which in the end only makes an ass out of both you and me. The lesson, is do not ass-u-me!
It’s always good to get things checked out before closing the door on someone, especially nowadays when so many factors are involved. For example, traffic does genuinely make people late, and emails do get lost and phones to get diverted. All these factors are out of our control.
What we can control, however, is our character and reputation; our patterns of behavior. If a person does have a steady record of being polite, or responsive, or caring or reliable then we find it easier to give them the benefit of the doubt. If a person is often rude and non-communicative then yes, there may be a tendency to jump to hasty conclusions.
But since we are aware of the law of karma and we know that everything eventually comes back to us… then it’s also good to stay positive and find an excuse for the other. In this way I stay open and I can manage my emotions.
It’s time… to be careful with our communications and to be clear. To not jump to conclusions and give others the benefit of the doubt, that is, if you want peace of mind.
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