‘To want or not to want?’ That is the question that has baffled us for generations. We have even turned it into a hobby to want all sorts of things, and to run or chase after our dreams and desires. Yet there is something that does not feel quite right… should we be chasing, pursuing, and struggling for the things we want? Why should it be so difficult? Should they not come to us more easily?
The root of our pain is in the want. The wanting of attention and approval, the wanting of respect and recognition or name and fame! The wanting of material objects, luxury goods and collector’s items!
Of course there is always the question: Is this a want or a need? You might ask, what is the difference? You see, the pit of ‘want’ is never ending, it causes us to struggle, stress and strive for things that are not really soul-fulfilling. We get what we want, the gloss wears off pretty quickly, and now we are looking for the next thing! In essence, it can all be a waste of time, money and energy. Need, on the other hand, is a necessity for physical or spiritual survival.
The soul already has everything it needs inside itself. The bodily needs will be met so long as one is doing good and elevated deeds. One whose actions and karma is good will never starve, nor beg. He will receive cooperation whenever it is needed. Dadi Janki is one such example. She has no personal bank account; it is her good deeds over a long period of time that is literally feeding her.
If I have this restless urge to want more and more, then I can’t possibly be at peace. It would be like constantly running after a mirage in a desert, and always finding that it was not what it appeared to be. We have to realise that it’s the pursuit of the ‘wants’ that is making us restless and peaceless.
In an attempt to be at peace, we need to make a conscientious effort to want less and to run after less. Less implies less of everything. Next time you find yourself running after a position or some recognition, think again, will this really bring me happiness and peace?
There is some truth in the saying that ‘a simple life is a happy life’! If I am hoarding things for a later date, just in case I might need them, then I am not living in trust. The energy of holding onto things blocks our flow. There needs to be a faith that I will always have what I want when I need it. And that means giving away things I am not using now, so that others can make use of them and benefit from them.
To want means to become a beggar. Check yourself this week, how many things am I begging for, rather than feeling that I have a right to what the universe can offer? A better strategy is to send out the thought of what it is I require, and keep the faith and trust that whatever is needed will return to me with grace and abundance. To keep asking from a feeling of lack or unworthiness means to mistrust the universe and block the flow and synchronicity.
When I realise that I am the master of my drama and my life, than I need not want. I can trust and feel that everything comes to me at the right time. I do not need to feel insecure or fearful. I am completely aware and in awe of how the universe is tuned in to what I need. And the more I practice this mindset, the easier it becomes to achieve.
It’s time… to feel worthy and trust that our needs, and our desires, can be fulfilled. By asking and wanting we become beggars. By feeling that we have a right, we become kings.
© ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London, UK