Tired?

Tired?

“Fatigue makes fools of us all.  It robs us of our skills,
our judgement, and blinds us to creative solutions.”

Harvey Mackay

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Who does not complain of tiredness today?  Everyone is tired.  From young children, the middle aged and the elderly.  But tired of what?  Tired of making effort?  Tired of coping with the stress and strains of daily living?  Or just tired of life itself?  Then, perhaps we have not understood the meaning of life at all.

When we make life a game then there is fun and only more fun.  When we get serious and start making unrealistic plans filled with expectations, this does not apply to realistic and doable aims, that’s when we are setting ourselves up for trouble.  That is when we start losing the joy of living.

Look at children when they are at play.  They are engrossed in the game and really enjoy the moment of ‘just being’ present.  Plus they are actually learning a lot of social skills about how to interact with others whilst at play.  When we make learning too formalized then life becomes too rigid and we are bound to become unhappy.  We lose the joy of playing the game of life, really happiness is not in the winning but in the participation of the game.

Look when we have an interest in something then somehow we do not feel tired.  Why is that?  Because we are engaged with the task at hand, or maybe we simply enjoy reading a good book. So what has happened to the joy in our life?  Where has it gone?

“That’s what learning is, after all; not whether we lose the game, but how
we lose and how we’ve changed because of it, and what we take away from
it that we never had before, to apply to other games. 
Losing, in a curious way is winning.”

Richard Bach

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Let’s look into some of the reasons that we become tired:

Physical Reasons

Not enough sleep
Lack of exercise – not moving / not walking / not exercising
Poor diet – a lack of a healthy, balanced and nutritious diet
Over-eating and under walking!
A lack of hydration
Lack of good air circulation
Talking too much – waste and gossip
Not keeping positive and uplifting company
Repeated monotonous work which leads to boredom.
The weather – too hot or too cold, or uncomfortable weather such as humidity and dusty
Always wanting to stay busy, but in an unhealthy way – to keep yourself distracted
Multi-tasking
Not listening to your body’s needs
Too much caffeine
Spending too much time with technology/ News/ Youtube/ TV/ Social Media etc. this drains us…
Uncomfortable clothing… too tight or not allowing your body to breath
Uncleanliness – taking a shower really relieves tiredness
Going into extremes of things, such as too much gambling etc., and other addictive behaviours
Working non-stop – being a workaholic!
Lack of discipline or a daily routine
Physical stress – such as sitting posture
And plain old laziness and bad habits…

Mental and Emotional Reasons

Poor judgement
Doing things out of duty and not from love
Not knowing your limits
Having no boundaries in relationships
Depression
General emotional upset
Poor self-esteem
Giving sorrow and taking sorrow
Guilt and regret
Poor attitude to life
Lack of interest
Negativity
Anger and frustration
Stress
Worry
Facing insult and defamation
Too many desires and expectations
Brain fog and confusion
No purpose in life – a sense of hopelessness
Too much attention going to the sickness at hand – blood pressure or diabetes issues.  It is good to take care but not to be obsessed!
Procrastination
Not doing the right thing at the time and then we are out of sync with life
Trying to be a people pleaser
Resentment
Jealousy
Attachment
Sorrow and sadness
False Ego Appearing Real – FEARs (and egos!)
Getting emotionally caught up – and living on one big emotional rollercoaster
Victim consciousness – poor me!

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As you can see from the list many of these things are within our control.  As we step back and look at the problem, then we will also see that the solution is also staring us in the face.  How many of the above issues are created by poor decisions making?  So we could change things by making better choices.

As we develop more and more self-respect we begin to value all our energies.  We are cautious about not wasting those energies.  The biggest reason for tiredness is our state of mind and thinking too much, or not thinking the right thing, or thinking in the right way.  As we begin to manage our thinking better and think less, or even learn how to think before we think!!   Then we begin to change our attitude towards everything and we become light and enlightened.

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A tired mind creates a tired and boring life.  If we are already tired in our mind, before we begin anything, then what energy can we give to the task?  Often we can be tired about thinking about the jobs that we need to do, more than in the actually doing!  We actually thrive on newness.  We have all experienced this.

Think about it.  How happy would you be to eat the same meal every day?  In the same way the mind needs newness and challenges to grow.  Meditation is a tool that helps us to recharge the mind.  With just one click of a thought we can change the tired mind into an enthusiastic mind.

“It’s not whether you win or lose.  It’s how you play the game.”

Grantland Rice

What happens when you go on vacation?  Even if the flight is at 2.00 am, you will be raring to go.  You will forsake your sleep and food to ensure that you are there on time for the flight. Why? Because you are excited and your mind is set towards enjoyment and relaxation… and not effort.  Basically the mind is geared up for play and adventure and that is why we are not tired.  The whole drama of the journey is another matter.  But actually, in a way we sort of enjoy that too.

The same is true for playing sports.  We will go running across the field to chase the ball, whether it be tennis or football.  So we don’t think of becoming tired then do we?  Interestingly, exercise and movement is not only good for the body, but clears the brain fog and enables us to think more clearly.

…we don’t get tired doing the things we love…

So is it fair to say, we get tired because we don’t enjoy doing those things?  And we don’t get tired doing the things we love.  So the moral is let us learn to love what we do, to make better choices about what and how we do the things we do, and then we will find that we are less tired.

It’s Time… to re-energize our life.  To do things of value that make us happy and help us to grow.

 

© ‘It’s Time…’  by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London, UK

 

 

 

 

 

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Zeynep Pamuk

Haha! Enjoyed every single word that you wrote dear Sister❤️ What is the motto I am taking away with me? Think better! Think less! 🙏🏽☀️💐Thanks a bunch💐💐💐☀️☀️☀️