Love is an elusive state of being that has enchanted, enraptured and tormented many a lover throughout time. This single four-letter word has the power to conquer hearts and minds when shared, or break a heart or two when not given.
Almost every heart is in search of it, and if we do not find it in the ‘significant other’ then our attention goes to our friendships, food, fashion, fads and fragrance as we look hard and fast to quench that thirst. Why is that? Because love is the essence of our being, because in fact we are love.
The song: “All You Need Is Love…” was released in 1967 by the Beatles. In fact, it became a song of peace and resistance, a sort of anthem of the time. It reflected the sentiment of the age of ‘flower power’, peace and non-violence. This was a protest song about love in the face of conflict and violence, especially during the time of the Vietnam War. But we can attach any meaning to it that we want. But is it not true… that all we truly need in life is enough love!
More songs, novels, poetry and movies have extolled the topic of love than all others put together. If love is the key to happiness, then it is also the engine, the headlights, the wheels and the windscreen!
Everyone profits on February 14th – the Romeos and the retailers! This day especially is marked as the day of love. On the 14th we will witness an array of red love hearts and teddy bears in a variety of fashions and fabrics. Yet the real depth, richness and colour of our love will be measured by the authenticity and genuineness of that love.
But if the ’love’ that we bestow upon another is deceptive or not reciprocated, it can be the cause of untold anguish. How genuine are we when we give that symbolic heart? Are we really being honest and in harmony with the sentiments expressed on the cards, and with the gestures that we make? In other words do we really mean what we are expressing through the mediums of hearts, flowers, teddies and chocolates?
Ironically very few of us are able to recognize that the love we are seeking is right here, and right inside of us. Much like the story of the princess who turned the whole palace upside down looking for her precious and most beloved necklace. After much frantic searching she happened to look in the mirror – only to find that in fact it had bejewelled her neck all along! The very jewels that she was seeking were in fact around her own neck. The same applies to us, the very virtue of love that we are seeking outside, is already within our own being. We simply have to take the time to look within the mirror of our own heart.
Especially in this day and age, love is often confused with desire, lust or attachment. A relationship based on physical attraction and passion quickly fades. In our desire to ‘find love’ we succumb to an illusion, and the overall feeling is eventually one of emptiness and disappointment as each becomes the trigger for the depletion of the other. The ‘love’ dies, often the connection between two souls dies even though they are still living in the same house! We are already experiencing an emotional divorce, long before we send those papers off to the lawyer. The problem is that we have simply forgotten that love is about giving, not taking.
Love has as much meaning as we attach to it. We casually say that we love our food, our pets, our jobs and our family. Yet when love is tested, at the end of it all, it is the bond of human relationship that conquers all. At its deepest level, love transcends differences and unites us all as one human family.
True love breaks all borders and boundaries. True love is not ‘what I can get’ out of a relationship, but ‘what can I share’ with another. True love remains ever-green; true love doesn’t have expectations; true love never runs out; and in its deepest spiritual sense… love is our essence, love is at the very core of our ‘being’.
So, if love makes the world go around, then why aren’t we applying more love in our life? Why is it that there never seems to be enough? What blocks the heart from overflowing with love? The answer is fear. Because where there is fear there is no love and where there is love, there is no fear. Fear is the polar opposite of love. Learn to love and BE love first and foremost, and the fears will fade away.
It’s Time… to start loving YOURSELF first! On Feb 14th, as you look around you to find your Valentine, take a moment to look within. Look in the mirror of your heart and you may just fall in love with the one that you see there… your true self!
© ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London, UK