Dedicated to all Mums!
Every mum is so special.
No matter how old a person gets, whether they become a VIP or a billionaire, mums will always have a right to put their kids in place. Mums always have a special place in our hearts. Their sacrifices cannot be measured and their love is the nearest thing to unconditional that we will find on this planet.
My mother passed away on 22nd Jan 2002. She was so adorable and always loved me no matter what, even when I was in the wrong! J I was so attached to her that I always wondered what I would do if she ever left this world! Somehow I was very strong throughout her funeral and thereafter, but later I realised that that was due to the fact that she had made us that way.
She believed in being economical; she would use Yardley Vaseline… for almost every body part! For her hands, feet and her face and believe me she had the smoothest face. She would use coconut oil to press her hair down. And she would always remind us to economise on the shampoo, conditioner and soap! I realised later it wasn’t because we didn’t have the means, but it was to teach us respect for all things and not to waste anything.
Until today I don’t understand how my mum managed my dad’s single income to run the household. We always had plenty of food and plenty of visitors, yet we seven siblings never felt a lack of anything. At least none of us seem to have grown up with a ‘lack’ consciousness! When my eldest sister was about to get married I remember going with my mum, dad and sister to the gold shop to buy these heavy gold necklaces, earrings and bangles! How was she able to save that money? Today both parents are working and still cannot manage a home with a single child!
Most importantly, all of us children were brought up with values and morals. Luckily each and every sibling is still happy, those who married are still married, are well off, and the next generation is hatching their own babies!
There are many things mums say to us which at the time we may not like. Yet the words of wisdom always seem to come handy later, especially when we begin our own families. It is then that we begin to value the advice more. So to the younger generation I would say, just listen, even if you feel your ego knows better. ‘Cos mums are mostly always right!’
Moms never like to see their kids unhappy. She would take away your pain if she could. She would always be there by your bedside if anything should happen to you. She bears the pain of everyone in the home! Of the demanding dad, the disgruntled mother in law, the lazy father in law, the spoilt little one, the arrogant eldest son, and the other quibbling kids.
Moms will always make you feel that you are that unique one! Each child will feel they are the apple of their mothers’ eyes. Somehow she seems to know exactly what each one needs and is able to give that to them making each one feel special and important.
A mother always knows to merge her children’s weaknesses. She will never speak out to anyone of the shortcoming of her children. If she were to hear someone talking she will cut them off or change the subject.
This is why moms are like angels on earth, always looking out for our welfare and guiding us no matter what! Once their job of motherhood has begun, it never ends ’til their dying day!
Here is an interesting perspective on motherhood (author anonymous):
“I am a Mother”
the officer at the driving license counter asked the lady, “what is your occupation ?” the woman seeking renewal of her license seemed to be puzzled.
So the officer said, “ma’am, are you employed….have your own business or….”
the woman replied, “oh, yes !! I have a full time occupation. I am a mother”
officer : “We don’t have ‘mother’ as an option for occupation. I will write it down as ‘housewife’. That takes care of all questions.”
this had happened long ago, and was forgotten.
Years later when i went to get my license, the public relations officer was a somewhat pompous woman.
“Your occupation ?” she asked in a rather authoritative tone.
I just had an inspiration and replied, “i am a researcher in the field of child development, nutrition and inter-personal relationships.”
the lady officer stared at me in amazement.
I calmly repeated my statement, and she wrote it down verbatim.
Then, unable to conceal her curiosity, she politely asked, “what exactly do you do in your profession, ma’am ?”
I was feeling good about having described my occupation so calmly and confidently. So i replied, ” my research projects have been going on for a number of years (mothers never retire !!). My research is conducted in the laboratory as well as in the field. I have two bosses. (one is god and the other is my entire family). Have received two honours in this field (a son and a daughter). My topic is considered to be the most difficult part of sociology (all moms will agree!!). I have to work more than 14 hours every day. Sometimes even 24 hours are not enough and the challenges are tougher than many other professions. My compensation is in terms of mental satisfaction rather than money.”
I could see that the officer was thoroughly impressed. After completing the licensing formalities, she came to the door to see me off.
This new viewpoint about my occupation made me feel much better on my way back home.
I was welcomed by my 5 year old research assistant at the door. My new project (my 6-month-old baby) was energetically practicing her ‘music’.
I had earned a small victory over the governmental red tape today. I was no longer ‘merely a mother’. Instead, i was now a highly placed functionary in a service vital for mankind – motherhood !!
‘Mother’ – isn’t it a great title. Fit to be added to the nameplate on the door !!
By this standard, grandmothers deserve to be called senior research officers, and great grandmothers qualify as ‘research directors’. Aunts and other ladies of that age group can be called ‘research facilitators’.
© ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London, UK