Get Over It
As life continues to move in the fast lane, it is imperative we learn to keep up with it so that we don’t miss out on the important and beautiful moments that are passing by. ‘Keeping up ‘with it’ to some people may mean to be hurried and hasty, stressed and peaceless. But another way of looking at it could mean to not be halted by events and situations that occur; to learn to see them, let them go and to move on.
On life’s journey, as we get caught up in the more unpleasant ‘side scenes’ we lose time and maybe even hope in our journey. These side scenes may be problems, other people’s behaviours, distressing over the state of the world, or anything else that diverts us from our path of purpose and joy. Unlike Little Red Riding Hood, do not be lured into the forest of distraction. Stay on your path and keep moving. For this we will need to exercise the muscles of ‘getting over it’ and move through the stuff as quickly as possible.
Many people hold onto guilt and sorrow and other such disabling feelings for months or even years. These feelings are crippling energies, they take away our strength, they make us sick and weak and slow. Taken to an extreme, they can even cause debilitating sicknesses such as cancer and MS.
If we always stay stuck in the mud of our negative thoughts we are just compounding the situation by reinforcing the negative thoughts that hound us, for example, that the world is a cruel place and no one loves us. We begin to make sorrow our comfort zone and keep returning to it again and again, because it’s what we know best. Learning to recognize that it is my choice to delve into the sorrow, is the first step towards getting out of it.
There are times when we may have to take extra time to contemplate on the stuff that we pass through. We may need to understand it, to process it and make an effort to let it go. Yet do not brood too much, because that can be a quick spiral down into depression and despondency. The longer we stay in our ‘stuff’ with that feeling of hopelessness, the more we will suffer.
When things happen ‘to us’ it can be quite easy to fall into victim mode. A victim is one who thinks and believes that their misfortune is as a result of the negative deeds of another, or that life has dealt them an unfair blow. They do not feel fully in charge of their lives. They are waiting for things to get better, or for someone to wave a magic wand so that they can feel happier or better.
Stop being a victim and become a master of your life by creating the kind of life you want. Always remember that suffering is optional, in fact it is self-imposed. You do not need to just stand there and allow it to take you over. Adjust, forgive, forget, or do whatever you need to do, and then move on in all ways into your next chapter of your life. Just as when we peel a fruit, we keep what is of value and throw the rest away. So too, keep the best and get over the rest.
It’s totally in our hands whether we spend years, or moments getting over something. Only we can flip the switch, no-one else! So, what are you waiting for? Someone to save you? The savior is you, and you are the one you have been waiting for. You can be your best healer, your best friend, your own beloved, and your own guiding light.
It’s Time… to get over the ‘stuff’ as quickly as possible, to keep moving forward and to return back to our original self, that of being peaceful, powerful and happy.
© ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London, UK