Posted on February 10, 2013
Love is an elusive state of being that has enchanted, enraptured and tormented many a lover throughout time. This single four-letter word has the power to conquer hearts and minds.
Almost every heart is in search of it, and if we do not find it in the ‘significant other’ then our attention goes to our friendships, food, fashion, fads and fragrance, looking hard and fast to quench that thirst.
‘All You Need Is Love’ was sung by the Beatles in 1974, and more songs novels, poetry and movies have extolled this topic than all others put together. If love is the key to happiness, then it is also the engine, the headlights, the wheels and the windscreen!
Everyone profits on February 14th – the Romeos and the retailers! The day marked as the day of love, will witness an array of red love hearts and teddy bears in a variety of fashions and fabrics. Yet the real depth, richness and colour of our love will be measured by the authenticity and validity of that love. But if the ’love’ that we bestow upon another is deceptive or not reciprocated, it can be the cause of untold anguish. How genuine are we when we give that symbolic heart?
Ironically very few are able to recognize that the love we are seeking is right here, inside of us. Much like the story of the princess who turned the whole palace upside down looking for her precious and most beloved necklace. After much frantic searching she happened to look in the mirror – only to find that in fact it had bejeweled her neck all along!
Especially in this day and age, love is often confused with lust or attachment. A relationship based on physical attraction and lust quickly fades. In our desire to ‘find love’ we succumb to an illusion, and the overall feeling is eventually one of emptiness as each has depleted the other. The connection between the two dies even though they are still living in the same house. We have forgotten that love is about giving, not taking.
Love has as much meaning as we attach to it. We casually say that we love our food, our pets, our jobs and our family. Yet when love is tested, at the end of it all, it is the bond of human relationship that conquers all. At its deepest level, love transcends differences and unites us all as one human family.
True love breaks all borders and boundaries. True love is not ‘what I can get out of’ a relationship, but what I share with another. True love remains ever-green, it doesn’t have expectations, it never runs out, and in its deepest spiritual sense it is our essence, our very core. To continue the Beatles song: ‘Love Is Everything…’
So if love makes the world go around, then why aren’t we utilizing it enough? What blocks the heart from overflowing with love? The answer is fear. Because where there is fear there is no love and where there is love, there is no fear. Fear is the polar opposite of love. Learn to love and BE love first and foremost, and fears will fade away.
It’s time… to stop hoping, fearing, yearning and lusting, and instead to learn to love! Start with YOU first. On Feb 14th, as you look around you to find your Valentine, take a moment to look within – you may just fall in love with yourself!
Share these thoughts! ‘It’s Time…’ is spreading far and wide! Feel free to forward this wisdom, but to avoid any karmic rebound, please acknowledge its source – ‘It’s Time…’ by Aruna Ladva, BK Publications London